Ang Ngiti ni Ate Fely

I recalled some experiences I had several years ago as a Jesuit novice. Going through my old journals, I came across some memorable anecdotes. Here's one which I wrote about and particularly liked...

Ika-27 ng Oktubre, 2002
SHN; Room #21
9:22 ng gabi

Bukas na magsisimula ang Urban Trials. Kasama ang kapwa kong mga nobisyo, sasabak ako sa mga squatter area ng Tondo. Iyan ang sabi sa amin. Sasabak na raw kami.

Bukod-tangi sa isip ko ngayon ang mga karanasan ko sa ganitong mga lugar. Masikip. Mainit. Marumi. Maingay. Mabaho. Kahit papaano’y hindi ko maipagkaila ang pangamba na baka may mangyari sa akin.

Eh tingnan mo naman ang hitsura ko! Matabang-mataba. Singkit ang mga mata. Nakasuot pa ng makapal na salamin. Paano mo masasabing anak ako ng mahirap? Paano ako babagay doon? Higit lamang ako mapapansin sa kakaiba kong anyo.

Ano pa ba ang magagamit kong script upang itago ang aking tunay na pagkatao? Ay basta! Ayaw ko nang mag-imbento pa ng kung anu-ano! Basta sasabihin kong seminarista akong nagnanais makibuhay kasama sila. Siguro sapat na iyon para wala na akong ipangamba.

Ika-28 ng Oktubre, 2002
Lover’s Compound, Tondo
5:38 ng hapon

Hindi ko pa lubusang maintindihan ang pinasukan kong mundo.

Kakatwa ang unang nagpakilala sa akin.

Sigaw siya nang sigaw. Ang naglalakihan niyang mga mata’y tila nagmumura. Kitang-kita ko ang mga mapupulang ugat sa mga gilid nito. Hawak naman niya ang isang boteng basag. Dinuduro-duro niya ito sa akin. Gusto yata akong saksakin.

“Walang ibang anak si Hapon! Putang ina! Wala sabi, eh! Sino ka ba talaga? Putang ina!”

Amoy na amoy ko ang alak. Nakakalasing ang kanyang hininga.

“Putang ina! Hindi kita pamangkin! Hindi, hinde-e-e-e!”

Wala na akong ibang maurungang sulok. Pumasok na siya sa barung-barong. Nakabuka ang aking bibig, ngunit wala akong maiimik.

Biglang may sumigaw mula sa labas.

“Puñeta! Anong ginagawa mo diyan? Lumabas ka diyan! Lasengga! Layas! Layas!”

Napatingin sa labas ang mga naglalakihang mata ng lasengga. Kumurap.

“Labas, sabi eh! Labas! At lumayas ka na! Layas!” patuloy na sigaw ng boses mula sa labas.

Tumalikod ang lasengga at bumaba sa hagdanan. Muling sumariwa ang hangin.

Nagbulyawan sa labas. Tuluy-tuloy ang murahan. At ako naman, napasara ang bibig at tumikhim.

Ika-5 ng Nobyembre, 2002
Kapilya ng San Pablo Apostol, Tondo
6:50 ng umaga

Ano ba ang ginagawa ko rito sa Tondo?

Ipinikit ko ang aking mga mata. Hinayaan kong madala ang aking isip sa agos ng sari-saring imahen ng lumipas na mga araw. Mukha ng mga kapitbahay. Mga umiiyak na sanggol. Walang katapusang paglalasing. Mga batang minumura ng kanilang mga magulang. Mga batang sinasampal ng tsinelas. Mga batang nagbubugbugan.

Higit kumulang may tatlong daang katao ang nagsisiksikan sa tinitirhan namin. Sa bilang na ito, dalawang daan ang mga bata. Kay rami nila.

Ngunit pinakamatingkad sa aking alaala ngayon ang duguang mukha ni Jonathan.

“Atan, paano naman kasi, alam mo namang lasing ang tatay mo. Bakit mo pa kasi nilapitan,” anang Nanay During sa kanyang apo.

Sinulyapan ako ng bata. Naisip niya sigurong may sasabihin ako. Halos hindi ko na makita ang kanyang mga matang isinara ng itim na maga.

Dahan-dahan kong iniabot ang saping binalutan ng yelo. Hindi siya kumibo.

Patuloy na dumaloy ang dugo mula sa kanyang ilong. Pinalibutan nito ang mga labing may hiwa. Walang imik ang bata. Ni luha wala. Nakayuko lang. Nakatingin sa sahig na aming kinauupuan.

“Maghilamos ka na, Atan. Ibabad mo na ‘yung suot mo sa tubig bago pa tuluyang matuyo ang dugo. Lalabhan ko na lang iyan bukas.”

Umabot ang kalahating oras bago tumayo ang bata at tumungo sa may balde upang maghugas. Nagbuntong-hininga na lang ang lola niya.

Ika-12 ng Nobyembre, 2002
Lover’s Compound, Tondo
9:06 ng umaga

“Sino ka nga uli?” usisa sa akin ni Midi, maliit na batang limang taong gulang.

“Anak ko siya,” sabi ni Nanay During mula sa tabi.

“Ha? Anak! Tanga! Tanga! Tanga! Ha ha ha ha!” sagot ni Midi na tawang-tawa sa sarili.

“Hoy, huwag kang magsasabi ng tanga! Lola mo iyan,” biglang sabi ni Ate Fely.

Magkadikit na ang aming mga balikat sa loob ng barung-barong. Hindi namin maideretso ang mga tuhod namin habang nakaupo sa sahig. Ganyan talaga rito. Mabuti na lang naipapahinga ko ang aking likod sa pagsandal sa dingding.

“Tito mo iyan,” turo ni Nanay During kay Midi habang tinutukoy ako.

Tumawa lang nang tumawa ang bata. Tila naaliw sa sariling pagtawa. Pati si Ate Fely ay natawa na rin sa kanyang anak.

“Anak, uwi na tayo,” sabi ni Ate Fely. “Gusto ko nang magpahinga.”

“Ha? Anak? Hindi! Hindi! Hindi! Hindi ako ang iyong anak!” sagot ni Midi na tawang-tawa pa rin sa sarili.

Minasdan ko ang ngiti sa mukha ni Ate Fely. Hindi ito nagbago, bagaman nabigla ako sa aking narinig. Ano kaya ang maikukuwento ng ngiting ito? Tumahimik ang bata at bumaling sa kanyang ina.

“Di ba ampon lang ako?” ang tanong niya na wala nang tawa.

Tahimik lang ang lahat. Hindi nagbago ang ngiti sa mukha ni Ate Fely.

“Ha? Gago! Gago! Gago! Ha ha ha ha!” biglang bulalas ni Midi.

Tumawa na lang siya nang tumawa. Naaliw sa sarili. Hindi na siya pinagsabihan ni Ate Fely na nakangiti pa rin.

“Hay naku,” biglang sabi ni Nanay During, natatawa sa nangyayari. “Ano kaya ang sasabihin ni Hapon kung buhay pa siya. Aba! Nagkaroon siya ng apo na tawa na lang nang tawa.”

“Ha? Baliw! Baliw! Baliw! Ha ha ha ha!” muling sigaw ni Midi.

Napahalakhak na rin ako.

Ika-20 ng Nobyembre, 2002
Lover’s Compound, Tondo
3:44 ng hapon

Lumusob ang mga pulis. May raid sa mga pusher. Biglang nagkaputukan. Sa tapat pa naman namin. Halos hindi ko maigalaw ang mga binti ko sa takot. Marami ang tumakbo para makaiwas sa anumang gulo.

Biglang may naglabas ng patalim. Ilang hakbang lang mula sa aking kinatatayuan. Kasing haba ng kamay ‘yung balisong. Ang naghahawak nito’y nakasando. Kitang-kita ko ang tatoo sa kanyang bisig. Isang malaking ahas, cobra yata, handang tumuklaw sa kalaban.

May hinahabol na naman si Cobra: isang lalaking nakahubad. Bigla niya itong sinaksak sa tiyan. Ang lakas ng sigaw. Saglit na ngumisi si Cobra, kita ang kanyang mga pangil, natutuwa sa kanyang nagawa. Ang kamay niya ay unti-unting nabalutan ng dugo. Hindi pa rin niya hinugot ang balisong. Nahimatay na lang ang kanyang sinaksak.

Nagputukan muli ang mga pulis. Natamaan sa binti si Cobra. Umungol. Sinundan ito ng pagbatuta ng mga pulis.

Nasindak ako sa mga pangyayari. Namalayan ko na lamang ang paghatak ni Nanay During sa akin, palayo sa duguang eksena. Baka pa raw ako madamay.

Ika-25 ng Nobyembre, 2002
Kapilya ng San Pablo Apostol, Tondo
6:52 ng umaga

Madalas akong datnan ng pagkainip sa mga lumipas na linggo. Tila ang buo kong sitwasyon dito sa Tondo ay paghamon sa akin.

Bagaman gusto kong simple lang ang buhay ko rito at hindi ko na kailangan pang itago ang aking tunay na pagkatao, iba ang naging kapalaran ko. May script na palang naihanda bago pa ako dumating. Hindi ko naman akalain na ako pala ang anak sa labas ng yumao ko ng “tatay” at inampon ni Nanay During. Ang ganitong klaseng kuwento ay nakakasakit ng damdamin ng iba, lalo na sa mga kamag-anak ng yumao. Naiinis talaga ako. Pero ano ang aking magagawa? Eh mismo si Nanay During ayaw baguhin ‘yung kinalat na kuwento.

Gabi-gabi na lang sa lugar namin, may nagbubugbugan, nagsasaksakan, at kung anu-ano pa. Minsan pinanonood ko na lang. Nagiging sanay na rin ako sa ganitong tanawin kung saan dumadanak ang dugo. Wala naman akong magawa. Hindi ko lugar ito upang makipag-away. Bahagi na ang suntukan sa kultura ng mga tao rito.

Ang mga bata naman, sanay na sa karahasan na itinuro sa kanila ng lugar na ito. Bata pa lang, marunong nang magmura at manapak ng kapwa bata. Ang mga tatay nga nila, ginagawa silang punching bag, lalo na kapag lasing ang mga ito. Wala pa akong nakikitang batang hindi nagmura o hindi naghamon ng suntukan. Wala naman akong magagawa. Alangan namang magbigay ako ng klase sa mga bata tungkol sa tamang asal at pagrespeto sa magulang.

Ika-27 ng Nobyembre, 2002
Lover’s Compound, Tondo
8:12 ng umaga

Wala akong magawa.

Nakalugmok ang lugar na ito sa kahirapan at karahasan.

Damang-dama ko ang aking pagkainutil. Para saan pa ang aking mga kakayaha’t galing?

Diyos ko, bakit Mo pa ako inilagay rito? Bakit Mo pa ako tinawag na magsilbi sa Iyo at sa tao? Eh wala naman ako magawa!

Hindi ba’t Ikaw na rin mismo ang nagsabi na naghahari ang Iyong Kaharian dito sa mundo? Tingnan mo naman ang lugar na ito! Kay layo naman ng Iyong Kaharian dito. Ni pangalan Mo ay hindi ko na nga naririnig!

Ika-29 ng Nobyembre, 2002
Lover’s Compound, Tondo
8:35 ng gabi

“Ha ha ha ha ha!” muling natawa si Midi sa kanyang sarili.

Kasabay ng kanyang pagsigaw ng kung anu-ano ang nakangiting pagtingin ni Ate Fely sa kanya. Matagal kong pinagmasdan ang mag-ina.

Ito ba ang nais maiparating ng Diyos sa akin? Na sa gitna ng karahasan at pagkainutil ay may pagmamahal pa rin?

Dinampot lang raw siya sa tabi ng tambakan noong siya’y sanggol pa. Mismong si Midi ang nagkukuwento. Hindi mo mababakas ang lungkot sa kanyang kuwento. Sasabihin pa niyang muntik siyang kainin ng mga aso, kasabay ang malakas na tawa. Sa lahat na ito, hindi pa rin nagbabago ang ngiti ni Ate Fely.

Napatahimik ako. Pati na rin ang aking pusong nabagabag. Narito pala ang Kaharian ng Diyos. Halos hindi ko na napansin. Narito na, bago pa ako dumating. Ang kinailangan ko lang gawin ay tumingin at tanggapin.

At sa aking pagka-walang magawa, nakita ko ang kamay ng Diyos na gumagalaw pa rin – inaakay ako para muling sariwain ang ganda na hindi madaling mapansin.

“Ha? Tito! Tito! Tito! Tito! Iyakin! Iyakin! Iyakin! Ha ha ha ha ha!”

Napatawa na lang ako habang dumaloy ang luha sa aking pisngi.

On the Road

Here's a short piece which I wrote last year on driving...

As the sky remains dark and the raindrops begin to fall, the road becomes slippery and the wheels begin to swerve. Left to right. Right to left. Left to right. Do my passengers feel this sudden movement? From the rear-view mirror I can see them, their heads nodding, their eyes shut tight by the rhythmic lullaby of the engine. My hands hold on tighter to the steering wheel.

“I must slow down,” I mutter to myself.

The van is simply too heavy to be maneuverable.

Beside us, a large bus suddenly roars by. It pushes the air between us with such a force that our rear wheels jerk up and slam down on the road. From the rear-view mirror, I see a nodding head, suddenly erect, giving off a soft yelp. Once the bus passes, however, the same head goes back into slumber. Its eyes do not remain peeled and alert. But mine do.

Mine must.

For on the road, potholes and barriers are scattered. And mine is the task of seeing us over these. As my foot continues to step on the gas pedal to propel us forward, my mind reminds me of the hand brake beside my knee. The journey is still far, and though the horizon continues to conceal the dawn’s rising, our headlights lessen the burden by lighting the way.

Lugawan

What did we do on Friday evenings? Many years ago when I was still in high school, our small group consisting of students and teachers from Xavier School would visit the parking lot of Araneta Coliseum, Cubao, and spend time with the street children who stayed there.

Isa-isa silang pumila. Nag-uunahan. Nagtutulakan. Pero nagtatawanan din.

Dala-dala ni Fely ang kanyang lumang manikang tila mas malinis pa sa kanya. Pareho silang gunit-gunit ang damit, mga pinagtagping retasong napulot sa tabi-tabi.

“Salamat po,” wika naman ni Daniel. Lagi niyang hawak ang isang supot na puno ng ketchup sachet–mga nakukuha sa Jollibee at McDo. Dinungisan na ng pula ang kanyang mga pisngi. Wika nga niya, “Ketsap na lang, kaysa rugby…”

“Kuya, dalawang itlog po,” ani ni Maricel, na sa bawat pagbabalik namin ay ganito ang hingi.

Idinagdag ko ang isa pang itlog, pati na rin ang isa pang kutsara sa basong may lugaw. Tinanggap ito ni Maricel sa kanyang kanang kamay, habang ang kabila’y akay ang bunso niyang kapatid na walang imik ngunit bukang bibig na pinagmamasadan ang pila sa kanilang likuran.

Sumunod si Edith, nakangiti, kahit namamaga ang isang pisngi at namumukod-tangi ang itim na pumapalibot sa kanyang mata. Sariwa pa ang mga sampagitang dala niya.

“Kamusta ang iyong tatay?” tanong ng aking kasama habang dahan-dahang naglalagay ng itlog at lugaw sa mga baso.

Walang imik ang bata. Lumakad na lang ito nang palayo. Nakayuko ang ulo. Nanginginig ang kamay habang hawak ang baso.

Tiningnan ko nang masama ang aking kasama. Nakita niya ang aking inis. Itinaas na lang niya ang kanyang tingin sa mga gusali ng Cubao.

Habang nagpatuloy ang daloy ng pila, patuloy ko ring pinagmasdan ang mukha ng mga batang inabutan namin ng lugaw. Ito ang mga mukha ng kahirapan at lungkot. Mga mukha na, sa murang edad, ay pinagsawaan na ang pag-iiyak. Mga mukha na nagnanais lamang ng munting kaligayahan.

Sa mga susunod pang linggo, ganito uli ang ritwal namin dito sa munting paradahan ng Araneta. At muli kong magigisnan ang mga mukha ng mga bata.

The Kind of Love I Want

The following anecdote was written by an anonymous source. Fr. Vic Salanga, SJ read it in his homily during our eight-day retreat last year. What particularly struck me was the ending, wherein the author reminds us that love is also accepting the possibilities which are closed to us.

It was a busy morning, approximately 8:30 a.m., when an elderly gentleman in his 80s arrived to have sutures (stitches) removed from his thumb. He stated that he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9 a.m. I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would to be able to see him.

I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound. On exam, it was well healed so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of his wound, we began to engage in conversation I asked him if he had a doctor's appointment that morning, as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no, and that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife. I then inquired about her health. He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer's disease.

As I finished dressing his wound, I asked if she would be worried if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now. I was surprised and asked him, "And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?" He smiled as he patted my hand and said, "She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is." I had to hold back tears as he left. I had goose bumps and thought, "That's the kind of love I want in my life."

True love is neither exclusively physical nor romantic. True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.

Behind the Photo-Developing Counter

I am an avid photographer. My interests in this field are quite diverse. From shooting wildlife, engaging in night photography, to taking portraits of people, and so forth… I have found myself, at times, mimicking the hunter who is out to catch his prey. With his trusty rifle and binoculars, the hunter makes sure to have his sights set on his target. In the same way, I shoot with a camera. My bullet, however, is light, in its refraction of colors.

I wait. This happens quite often, especially when I have a scene which I want to capture in a particular way. But waiting is something I have learned to appreciate only as I immerse myself in the art of the craft. I went on a trip with a professional photographer once. He had set up his equipment atop a balcony. His camera was on a tripod: its sights set at the cloud formations above. We waited for over half an hour before he started to unpack his things: taking the camera off its stand and returning the batteries into their canisters. It was so abrupt that I had not expected it. Why did he suddenly pack up? His countenance seemed as cheerful as it was earlier. I openly shared my puzzlement. His response was very simple. The wind had changed and the clouds were blocking the sun in a way he did not want them to.

I reflected on the photographer’s words and found myself mildly impressed. In this day and age of high-tech speed and fast-food efficiency, a person can still be patient and yet be open to the possibility that his waiting will be for nothing. Well, when I think about it again, is it really for nothing? Have I not been myself a victim of the amateur photographer’s folly of taking pictures left and right, as if I had an endless supply of film and all the money to spend developing them? Have I not found myself with the bane of seeing how useless many of my pictures were anyway? So casual, so unthought-of, and so chaotic, I have seen far too many photos waste away in the corner of my room.

And so I wait. There is something profound about the discipline it takes to just sit in a position and wait. There is a certain level of resoluteness, determinism, patience and focus that I would not usually be disposed to when I’m not handling a camera. It’s as if waiting has taken a life of its own – an interior existence brimming with energy even as its exterior seems so dull and inactive. My mind is attentive to details that surround me as I calmly anticipate a composed image in my head. My fingers are sensitive to the sensation of the shutter, the zoom lens and the flash button. The eyes of my imagination look past the colors of my surroundings and frames the possibilities of a photograph within a 4x6 inch mental frame. And then I take my picture. With a whir, the film advances by one.


Sometimes, though, no picture is taken. Birds have flown away, the clouds have lost their interesting forms, and the mountains have hidden their sheen. I laugh to myself and disassemble the camera from the tripod. There will be other moments. I look forward to the next opportunity.

At the photo-developing center, the technician eyes me thoughtfully. He invites me behind the counter to see how my negatives are being processed. His assistant likewise invites me in. She says that this is one of their ways of thanking me for patronizing their outlet. I decline their generosity with a smile.

It takes an hour to have a roll of film developed and for its prints to be processed. Yet another hour of patience. I wait it out. I try to imagine how my photographs will emerge, knowing full well that behind the counter, the technician already sees my pictures unfurl one by one. I envision the good shots I’ve taken, and predict which ones will come out bad. As I wait, I relish the whole creative process, allowing myself the space to breathe in the experience of the art. In this way, I mature in the craft I have chosen.


With the final product of pictures released, the waiting comes to an end. I gaze slowly at the works of art that have been created, or smirk at the ones that have come across as parodies. My mind takes all these images in. And once again, the process of waiting begins. It begins anew with the lessons I have learned, with the longing to take to the field with my camera once more and wait for the opportunity to capture moments again.

The Pretty Girl in the Pink Dress

The following is a piece I wrote around two years ago. It's for those times when you're in the mood for reminiscing...

It was in those mid-elementary years that I found myself competing in my first major singing contest. It had been forthcoming, really. After years of training with my music teachers, and after much exposure to singing on stage, the opportunity came to test all that I had learned.

It was an interschool Chinese singing contest. Held yearly, this outfit showcased the best singers from Chinese schools all over Metro Manila. Liberty Hall had become an icon for many Chinese students who would travel to Binondo – to Chinatown – and test their nerves and singing prowess.

For me, however, it was an altogether uncomplicated matter. Inasmuch as this contest was a challenge to my skills and a stake at my school’s pride, I was in it for simpler reasons. I loved singing. I enjoyed performing. This, however, did not take away the pressure involved in the daily preparation of having to practice my notes, rehearse my gestures, clarify my diction, and so forth. But behind these outward paraphernalia, I secretly held on to the joy and pleasure of being one with music as my spirit blended in with song. It was after all, a passion that had been growing steadily those years. And as it was also a craft in itself, I slowly grew to appreciating the art as I fell in love with singing all the more.

The day of the competition finally came. Young girls and boys like myself slowly trudged up the stairs leading to the performance hall. I supposed that like me, they too were filled with mixed feelings of anticipation, anxiety and excitement. None of us looked up as we climbed seemingly endless flights of stairs. Our heads were probably drowned out with trying to remember our songs, going through them again and again in our minds.

The stage was brightly lit. There were many decorations. Adults were chattering away. Excitement was brewing in the air. But none of us noticed these. Our hearts were too heavy with an unspeakable emotion. Most especially for me, I was trying to focus, to put my anxieties aside, to look only at the task at hand. Repeatedly, I breathed in, and breathed out…

A young girl about my age came and sat a few seats in front of me. This was very distracting. There was no one seated in the many chairs between us. I tried to return to the notes of my song.

But I could not help it. She wore a pink dress with frills at the side. Her hair was long and braided. She wore earrings that shook each time she moved her head.

I was staring. And for a period of time that even I could not remember, I just sat there, mouth slightly opened, looking straight at this girl whom I did not even know. All seemed so quiet inside me, so very peaceful... If not for the blaring speakers calling out my name, I probably would not have even awakened from this trance.

It was my turn to sing.

As I slowly walked to the stage, the nervousness all rushed back in. The piano intro played, I started to sing. Though I seemed to have faltered in my first few notes, I gradually gained momentum as my confidence steadily gained ground. The love of singing was pumping through my veins. The passion of song was beating once more in my chest. As my voice rose and fell and as my body glided in movement, I felt so at peace. I looked to my audience and sang to them – to each one of them – as I looked at them eye to eye. I felt good about myself.

“The mountains we shall level, and upon them we shall make passageways.”

The words drummed in my ears.

“No distance is too great, for we are all bound together in one heart.”

My spirits were lifted higher as the music resounded all the more within me.

And then my eyes came to the girl in the pink dress, whose hair was braided, and whose earrings shook as she moved her head. I was now singing to her. I was overcome with silence. My soul was engulfed in such sweet passion. Even as the piano continued playing, and my voice and body kept on with the song, it was as if all these slowly melted away. All that remained was a heavenly consolation. She was very pretty. She had a pretty smile.

The audience applauded loudly. I awakened once again from my trance. My teachers were below the stage, beaming with pride after my performance. They called out to me in congratulations. But my gaze returned to the girl in the pink dress. Her hair was braided. She was clapping. She was smiling.

I won first place that day. Everyone was so happy for me. I was saying ‘thank you’ again and again. As I shuffled between people, my head continued to look around for the pretty girl in the pink dress. She did not win at all. I felt sad for her.

Finally, I saw her. I tried to ease my way through endless waves of people moving at all directions. My heart and my mind raced. What would I say? Her name. Ask for her name.

As I drew closer, I saw more clearly the designs on her dress, the pattern of frills. The thin bracelet on her left wrist… A dimple on her cheek…

She did not see me draw closer. A woman moved in between us and swiftly guided her away to the exit. I stood where I was. I felt lost.

I would return to this competition yearly. And yearly, I would keep on winning, too. But my secret desire was to see her again, and to sing to her once more. I would think to myself of the things I would say when I would finally meet her. I’d imagine how she would look and how she would respond.

I would say, “Hi. You sang so beautifully. Congratulations.”

And then she’d smile her pretty smile. Or she might even blush just the same. She would have her hair braided. And a thin bracelet would be on her wrist. She might wear her pink dress once again, the one with frills on the side.

“I’m sorry, I don’t think I got your name. My name is Terence. And you are?”

She would give her name. And I would repeat it to her and to myself, just to be sure I got it right, mulling it over again and again as it would sink ever deeper within me.

And then we’d talk about our schools, our hobbies, and why we love singing so much. We would share our favorite songs and the kind of tunes we really like.

I was very excited. My imagination was consumed just thinking of what might happen. I was thrilled with the anticipation of seeing her again, of finally meeting her and talking to her.

I never did. She never returned.

Many years have come and gone. Since then, music has grown ever more deeply within me and held its hold. In many ways, I have learned that passions can have different faces, both in the rapture of high notes sung by a tenor, and in the warm embrace given by womanly arms. I have seen that passions, too, are like colors. In glittering beauty or in dullness, they take on different shades. Even black seems to glisten as blue to lovers who frolic beneath the evening twilight. Dusk’s play of light can make the deep rose-red dress look like a heavy drab of grayness to a jilted lover’s sight. And eyes—bloodshot and tired—staring at the white innocence of an orchid, begin to see shades of pink seeping in from the petals’ edges.

Music, in its multi-tonal harmonies, seems to be less complex. But it has sent me soaring and diving just the same, its capriciousness matched only by the conductor’s baton. From the sidelines of jazz cafés to the limelight of stage plays, I have loved women and learned to hold them close in sweet desire. I have sung them songs of love and pain, peace and regret. At the beckoning strums of the guitar and at the gentle pleadings of a piano chord in G, my heart reverberates with anticipation, and my voice echoes in song. The great backdrop of moon and stars had been set and I had filled the night with sweetness.

But memory has its way of easing me back to yesterday, to times far simpler... When peace was found in the quiet purity of a simple heartfelt song. I return to these times as I never seem to forget them. And I remember a pretty girl in a pink dress, who had braided hair and had dangling earrings. She wore a thin bracelet on her wrist, and had a dimple on her cheek. I sang to her once. She was very pretty.

Like Many Colored Fish

Ha! And so I begin. Let's see where this leads...

My personal theme these past months has been: BE HAPPY. Maybe the word 'theme' doesn't quite capture it. Perhaps the word 'struggle' is more appropriate. Hehehe. It's not like I'm some depressed zombie walking about with sagging eye bags. Hahaha. But seriously, in my heart of hearts, I do desire a deeper experience of joy in my life.

To summarize what my spiritual director and I uncovered some time ago, it seems that what would be good for me is to get into a spirituality of allowing. As I look into my life and see all the different movements at play, I cannot deny how truly blessed I am. And yet sometimes--amidst all the many gifts I have received--I find myself still yearning, still unsatisfied, still hoping for some happiness. Psycho-emotional issues and hang-ups aside, can I allow the many gifts I have received to just sink in deeper? Can I relish these many blessings and allow them affect me more intimately? I guess part of this is asking for the grace of gratitude and joy for all that has been, and continues to be, given.

Perhaps, at times, I have ventured too often through shallow waters when most of the many bounties I have received come from the deep.

Some years ago, I had the opportunity to live with a fishing community in Zamboanga Sibugay. For the first few weeks of my stay with my host family, I noticed that most of the day's harvest consisted of small silver-colored fishes, which the locals would call sapsap. Quite ordinary, the largest among these sapsap would just be as long as a finger. Some would be sun-dried and turned into tuyo. The rest would either be stewed or fried immediately.

Day in and day out, we ate sapsap. Sapsap for breakfast. Sapsap for lunch. And oh yes, sapsap for dinner, too. A question came to mind, along with a palate that was already looking for some kind of variety. With the wide-open sea before me greeting me each day, how is it that only these sapsap seem to reach the table?

Maybe my host family could read my mind, or perhaps they noticed my changing eating habits. On one of the holidays, they decided to treat me out to a little excursion. We rode the little wooden pump boat used for fishing and slowly made our way along the coast of the neighboring islands. After some time, though, I noticed that the color of the water was changing. It was at this point that I was reminded to be careful and not to move too much, less our wooden pump boat roll over. We were entering deep water. Funny that when you're on the island, with your feet firmly planted on earth, you don't always see that beneath the waves, a whole landscape of depths are at play.

After an hour, we were out in the open sea. I felt so small. As I peaked over my left and my right, deep blue waters surrounded me--very unlike the greenish waters that went only a few meters deep before one hits the sand.

But lo and behold--wonder of wonders--in the middle of the deep blue, we came across a little island, all of it sand, virtually all of it submerged in water, and only less than a kilometer wide. A sandbar, some may call it. My surprise was evident in my face. My companions, on the other hand, had their knowing smiles. They got off the boat, waded through knee-high water, and started setting up a simple tent. They called this place pulo, which simply meant 'island'.

I took many pictures that day. But my favorite one had to be of the fishes that we caught for lunch. The way fish was caught in the deep seemed to be very similar to the way fish was caught in shallow waters. The net was lowered, and the pump boat would go in a circle around a fixed point, hopefully trapping some fish within the circle. The difference here would be that the nets are lowered deeper. And unlike shallow water, the nets would never really touch the sea floor. Wouldn't that let the fish escape? It was pointed out to me that with so much fish in the deep, one cannot help but catch fish just the same. As the nets were raised, I saw our harvest. Different kinds of fish. Various colors. Many shapes. Wow...

The fish was excellent. All of it fresh from the sea, we cooked them on a makeshift stove above the waters. Some fish were sweet; others were a bit salty. Some had delicate textures; others were more firm to the bite. Each fish we tasted was an experience in itself. And I enjoyed all of them.

We spent the afternoon on the pulo, eating fish, exchanging laughs, telling stories... I felt happy.

The afternoon drew on and the tide was coming in. Soon our little pulo would be totally submerged in water. I took the opportunity and spent my last few moments here seated on the sand as the water level gradually rose to my waist. The deep blue that surrounded me seemed even more blue this time. The breeze was very gentle. Such calmness. Such peace.

Every so often I try to remember this scene. The afternoon sky. The light breeze. The deep blue waters. I remember the pulo, sitting on the sand, with the tide coming in. I remember the bounty of fishes and of its variety of colors. I remember. And I try to imagine...

I imagine the many blessings that fill my daily life. Of talents and gifts. Of persons and places. Of memories. Of hopes. Of desires. I imagine them dwelling in the depths of me. And I imagine casting the nets. Such bounty abounding with each harvest!

I imagine these blessings surrounding me. Not so much that I gaze at them. But that behind these, there is a gaze upon me. A loving one. A tender one. A patient one.

I say Thank You in deep gratitude for so much that has been and is being given. I experience this with much joy and much peace.

Every so often when I forget how much I am loved and how much I have been given, when the daily grind of everyday concerns forces me run around in shallow waters, when my sights are weakened and I fail to see the deep blue that surrounds me... My silent prayer is this: That I may remember. So that I may find myself once again on my little pulo, with the deep assurance that grace dwells within me.